February 2021: Fierce Self Love

Time to Rooooaaarrrrr!

FIERCE SELF LOVE.

Watcha hows it going out there?

OK so its February and thoughts are turning to matters of the heart. There is more daylight making my heart sing, its nearly Spring and I can already feel my shoulders gently moving downwards a little. February brings thoughts of love and after a month of life throwing full on curve balls I have been witnessing an outstanding behaviour of fierce self love. I can honestly say I have not experienced this before however it was much needed. So of course I painted a tiger.

I also came across the concept of self advocacy. I have not really considered this EVER. Self advocacy means you have the ability to speak-up for yourself and the things that are important to you. Self-advocacy means you are able to ask for what you need and want and tell people about your thoughts and feelings. To speak your truth even if it makes the other people around you feel uncomfortable. Managing to do this in a vulnerable way is an awesome experience.

I thought it would be an opportunity to plant this little seed of information for you. How are you loving yourself through the day? What small steps are you willing to take to bring this idea in?

During this time of fierce self love I was feeling pretty mivved and downtroden about my aspirations for this 2021 shizzle. Stuff hadn’t quite taken off as I had expected. With the help of a friend I hashed it out, coming to the realisation that a dream business isn’t built on two emails and one social media post. I dusted myself off, plucked up all the courage I could muster. I stuck my neck out a bit more, stepped out of my comfort zone AGAIN- thats twice in one year- and learnt alot about the stories I create around success and how to love myself more.

The point I am trying to make is that fear can often get in the way of all the ideas/ intentions we have in our heads of the way we want things to be. We can carry self depricating stories about ourselves and often fall at the first hurdle due to them. Feelings of ‘I am not good enough’ ‘I dont deserve this,’ ‘Im too fat, too tall, too much……’ I am pretty sure you may have your own ones.

Feeling like we have failed when we haven’t is pants. Failing is part of winning. Just try a different way round something, research, or try again and again or ask for advice or meditate or run or do some yoga or eat some cake or an apple, or paint a tiger. And then try again.

Last time I wrote about Trees and before that a note book and a pen. I am wondering if any of you are using the note book and pen as a way to support you with making intended changes or to jot down ideas. As you know it took me years. This time apart from trees I wanted to land you with a couple more things you might wanna write on paper. This is all part of fierce self love.

Apart from our intentions its an awesome idea to wake up and write down what you are grateful for. Thats right, every morning or every other morning take your pen and note book (if you can find it of course,) write down some stuff that your grateful for. It can be big things or little things. Such as the warm sheets around your body or an awesome surprise that happened to you.

Hold the front door……..its not just writing gratitude…….. heres the crunch. You have to say why.

WHY you say? Yes WHY.

When we say WHY we are grateful for what we are grateful for. When we do this it takes us into the feeling of gratitude, embodying the emotion, taste, touch, smell, sound of gratitude. Does gratitude have a sound?…I have no idea…perhaps it does…..

Potentially then we can really sit inside gratitude, let the self be enveloped, feel that delicious, grateful feeling.

WHY?: Writing gratitude and feeling inside of it makes us feel good. Being grateful for everything around us makes us get into the idea that things arent so bad and clears space in the mind for all the good stuff to come in.

So find a notebook and a pen. Put it by your bed. Write down your ideas, intentions and a gratitude list in the morning or when you can and say WHY.

Remember love is everywhere you look you just gotta dig deep and find it in yourself.

Time to RRRROOOOOAAAARRRRR!

Until we meet again. ……….